Becoming Engaged with Your Own Self-Worth |
By Amy Hale
Certified Hypnotherapist, HypnoCoach and Owner of Changing Lanes in Ann Arbor, MI
How comfortable are you with your own self-worth? It is important to understand how worthy you feel of what you want for yourself and what you want to achieve in your life. Self-worth is important to the ultimate happiness you feel in your life because it is deeply tied into your ability to attain your desires.
In order to move forward with your desires, you need perseverance. So why do we sometimes give up so easily or put off moving forward? Many of us feel that we cannot find enough hours in the day in order to pursue our dreams, or we live in an environment that seems so far away from what we truly want. Are these just excuses? Who or what do we hide behind in order to stay in our comfort zone. Being comfortable doesn’t mean we’re happy to be where we currently are, but it could be that we are afraid to step out of our comfort zone because we haven’t quite learned to trust ourselves in creating and allowing our desires to come to fruition. This process seems difficult at first, but it does get easier as you move into a better state of mind.
If your feelings and thoughts are positive, they are very powerful. If your feelings and thoughts are negative, they are also very powerful. We can think of this as an extension to the Cause/Effect Theory, where your thoughts and feelings are the cause, and the effect is what happens from them.
For example, have you ever been unhappy in your job and thought “what if I can’t get another job.” Or maybe you’ve experienced a time when you were alone, without a partner. Many of us have said things like, “why can’t I find anyone decent,” or “when will I ever find someone who I can share my life with?” Thoughts like these generate feelings which are put directly into your unconscious mind where it creates more in the reality of lacking.
However, have you noticed when you receive a job offer or find a new partner, often you will receive more job offers and meet more potential partners in a short time span afterward? This is because you no longer have the unconscious sense of lacking which perpetuates more feelings of lacking. This becomes a prevailing cycle unless you begin to change the way you feel about your self-worth.
Your unconscious mind is very impressionable and communicates by imagery and feelings. So doesn’t it make sense to use your creative mind to generate your desires into realization? You can use your conscious and rational thoughts to generate images and feelings within yourself that attract your desires and help make you comfortable with the changes that need to take place on the way.
Here are some ways to become more engaged to your own self-worth.
• Set time aside each day to daydream about what it is you really want. Be open to how you feel and how your thoughts progress. If anything makes you uncomfortable, focus on that for only a moment and then remove it and begin daydreaming again where you left off. The more comfortable you become with your new desire, the easier it will be to obtain.
• Here is a technique that I use when I’m feeling blocked. Imagine that you are approaching a wall. It can be as big and tall as you like. On this wall is written what it is that is blocking you to a particular desire. Acknowledge what that block is and decide if you are willing to keep it or let it go. When you decide to let it go, find a way around this wall. You can climb over it, go around it or find a way through it. See what’s on the other side. On the other side of the wall is what life will be like once you move around the obstacle.
• If you are hiding behind a situation or person, imagine what it would be like if they were to step aside and let you have what it is you want. Get comfortable with the idea of making the decision to move forward with your desire and notice what feelings it generates. Common feelings will be fear and nervousness. These are normal. Keep using your imagery of a successful outcome and you will generate more motivation to move ahead.
Guided imagery allows us to test out an experience that we desire. It can help us make the changes we want more easily. When you become comfortable with your desire, your conscious and unconscious minds work in unison to put it out to the universe to help you receive it faster.
As you work with your with your self, you will find how much your self-worth is tied into your reality. Becoming engaged with your self-worth, can help you manifest your desires and prosperity into your reality more quickly and easier than you ever thought possible. By committing to stepping out from behind other people or negative circumstances, you can employ new strategies to build your self-worth and have a life that you desire.
Amy Hale is a Certified Hypnotherapist and HypnoCoach specializing in Medical Hypnosis and relationships. She is the owner of Changing Lanes in Ann Arbor, Michigan. You can find her at changing-lanes.com