September 08th 2008 - You meet, feel the instant chemistry and gaze into each others eyes with desire. The need to be in a closer encounter is achingly powerful. Timing and intension are everything. When we give someone something fascinating to think about….to work for….to be intrigued by, we see them back. What if we don’t? They weren’t worth it. Here are some scenarios I hear about sex too soon and why waiting can be a more powerful aphrodisiac then a steel bucket of oysters.
THE WORK ROMANCE
You see each other daily. You look forward to the moments absolutely shivering with anticipation and excitement. Every day preperation before work is like choosing an outfit to go clubbing. You are careful to hide your desire from Co Workers. They can so easily sabotage your dreams with gossip.
And then one day it happens. He asks if you want dinner or a few drinks after work. Now you are locked with your feelings together in a private encounter. You make love in abandon, maybe in a hotel or his car. Here's what else can follow :
The after glow between you both shimmers at work. The Co Worker kidding starts. Now you are playing with potential dynamite.
If he retells to fascinated "friends" the tale of your instant passion behind closed car doors ... "your ravenous desire"..... you are a joke.
Suddenly you realize you will pay a nasty price for not truely knowing the person you made love with on a first time out.
What would have happened if you had gone slow? Probably silence at work. More so, that special person will go crazy thinking about getting back to you. “Friends” are more inclined to keep secreats. It takes time to build a friendship. Sorry.....work flirtations don't count as friends. Timing is EVERYTHING and going too fast sabotages.
THE FIRST TIME OUT WITH A COMPUTER DATE
You have been messaging or calling each other with all the details of your life and interests. And then the actual meeting happens. What happens when he walks in the room and you are memorized? What happens if she is everything you ever dreamed of and more?
What will you give him to intrigue him back once the encounter is over?
After sex, many men experience the “Oh my God we got this far .... how fast are we going? I`m scared out of my mind!” Unfortunatly this is a common feeling when things go too fast.
The intrigue of NOT having sex right away pulls the other back like a magnet, to see and experience more - more- more!
Not having sex right away can be a bigger aphrodisiac then having it. It haunts the dreams and daily fantasies just to imagine what someone COULD be like in bed.
OK We all know this one, right? But he’s not always the obvious stereo type. He can be a sweet man that starts the conversation with words like “marriage” “children” and all the things your heart believes are words a player would be too insensitive to use. Your heart soars. You make love with absolute trust that you have found your twin flame. The experience of first date passion is almost religious. You feel as if you are lying on a marriage bed of white Lilies and rose petals.
He is in love with Your love for Him.
He sees Himself BEAUTIFUL through YOUR eyes.
And then, after a pre – wed pretend matrimony night, he has had his fix. He is a narcissist. The golden rule with men who say exactly what you need most to hear the first date is, “Too Good to be True.” If he really is who he claims, make him wait for sex. Don’t make love the first or second time you are together either. He may actually fall in love with YOU in the process, instead of just him self!
ONCE THE SEX HAPPENS THE OWNERSHIP DINAMICS START.
It seems sweet longing is the most beautiful part of romance novels and movies. It’s the relationship rules that complicate things. So why not take your time with physical passion? Build the suspense, give a reason to want more, and show you are intensely valuable and at no ones beckon call. Going slow says “I’m damn worth coming back for. Wait and see.”………..They will.
Ann Marie has 37 years Client Reading Experience
Don’t be afraid to come to me if your longing for another makes you a fool. I have heard every scenario and can help out with your relationship or possible up and coming one.
Ann Marie O'Dell - Personal Psychic Consultations by Phone or Studio
Early, IA 50535
Ann Marie is a Certified Master Tarot Channeler that reads on relationship dynamics.