June 18th 2010 -
When women face the empty nest syndrome it is easy to forget
what their greatest joy is. It has
always been the greatest joy of the children’s accomplishments, the success of
paying another months shelter, or the path of the soft warrior in career
strategy goals.. But what happens when
the children leave or retirement is around the corner? “The age of the “wise woman” can be both
beautiful and a night mare, especially if we forget life is more then a 401 K
plan and children to act out our dreams in. Who are we? What have we gained?
WHAT IS A CRONE?
woods. But in ancient times the three
stages of women were:
- The
Maiden - The
Mother - The
Crone {Wise woman} - As a
woman reaches her later years, she reaches “Mastery” as the shaman
woman. At this point she has
invested years of experience and training into her field of
expertise. And whether this is as mother, mystic, creator or shaman, she goes past the point of training to excel
as the teacher and wise woman.
HOW A WOMAN OF WISDOM
REACHES HER GREATEST JOY
It is often said that when children leave home mothers go in
to desperation. Some will go on to raise
grandchildren and become immortal memories to them. Others with out children will find for the
first time they are no longer “different” because they are
not lugging a child around.
Time to let go of the past. No more living our dreams through family.
We are responsible for redesigning our selves. We must let go of the sadness. No one owes you a thing but yourself. “Who
will take care of me" is obsolete thinking. Instead, “What have you done to build yourself a support
group of caring sisters?” "What are you doing to follow what excites you most?" is of today's wise woman thinking.
YOU ARE FREE! FOLLOW YOUR GREATEST EXCITEMENT!
- Go back to school, or take a class that interests you.
- Join
a
volunteer group to aid in the clean up and animal rescue of the oil
spill. - Exercise! Work
out if able. - Never
count on the children to fulfill your happiness. They
have their own lives to struggle
with. This is your second
adolescence. Be their role model for aging gracefully.
WHY A SUPPORT GROUP OF CARING SISTERHOOD?
- Without
a group of caring friends, as a wise woman “crone”, you will consider it
the children’s responsibility to care for your loneliness. - We
live in an increasingly mobile world where children can live thousands of
miles away. Do not become their
worst nightmare by phoning them every time you feel abandoned. - This
is the time to redesign your self!
Be the person you always were envious of…..its OK now to be ABOUT YOU!
WHETHER A LONER OR
NOT, YOU NEED A SUPPORT GROUP!
I come from a Family
of creative lone wolves. Having close
friendships was for others, as we relished in our content "self hood" and family. Even though we all live hundreds of miles
apart, alone in a crowd was “freedom” never to be feared as much as making close friends was.
As I reached the age
of the wise woman, the “crone”, I began to realize I had concerns and unfulfilled
needs. I enjoyed the flexibility and
empowerment of having a circle of women to discuss and create with. I also know that in a crisis, my support
group will be there for me. It is up to
each “wise woman” to find her support group for nurturing, inspiration, friendship
and healing.
Children are not
responsible for our emotional well being.
We are!
In the book, “The
Prophet”, it is said parents are but “bows”, and children the “arrows.” Our job is to shoot the arrows off in a
straight direction into the future.
Click here to see my
support group, in a You Tube I call:
Ann Marie O'Dell - Certified Psychic Consultant
Early, IA 50535
United States
Ann Marie O'Dell